I get where you’re coming from, but given the cost of equipment these days, it’s important to consider whether or not the zero-config big box brand stuff will be around long enough to be worth the cost. While it’s a PITA to spend your efforts setting this all up, doing it yourself using open protocols can be worth it in the long run. And 9 out of 10 times, when you do it yourself, you can just leave it alone and forget about it.
Edit: there is a good write-up between zigbee and matter, and for ease of use it looks like matter would be better for your use cases.
Shit I forgot about this feature. Thanks!