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Cake day: August 6th, 2023

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  • “Choose interesting jobs”

    THIS! A MILLION TIMES THIS!

    The absolute best career choices I’ve made, in hindsight, were always from the interest in the work or quality of whom I was working with.

    Took jobs for less pay, even turning down much higher offers, to choose the gig that was in the area I wanted to expand in.

    Never accept just based on “it’s a few bucks more”. Unless it’s twice the pay AND you have something else to gain from the role, always grab the better experience or less stressful spot.





  • You are still removing others rights over a hypothetical. It doesn’t miss this, it directly focuses on the point of blame. Punish the parents for exposing their kids. Irresponsibility is not excuse for harm… If a parent leaves hardcore porn laying around for a child to find and harm occurs, don’t punish the uninvolved adult up the street.

    Another form of media doesn’t magically absolve parents from parental responsibility. Stop trying to play the “poor adults have no control over their kids!” Card.

    The “but think of the children!!!” trope is tired and over abused to remove rights and privacy. Move along.


  • How about less “control everyone else” and more “control your own damn kids”.

    My daughter didn’t get unsupervised access until she proved responsible enough to trust. I want to say around 13.

    Just because “I grew up with it unsupervised and it ruined me” doesn’t immediately equal “everyone will have this experience”. Sorry your parents didn’t understand what you were doing. Sorry you saw stuff that bothered you. Don’t punish everyone else for it.

    I’m far from a helicopter parent… Instead, my kid has come to me for help in resolving uncomfortable or problematic interactions. We’ve always been clear and honest about why we’ve asked her to avoid certain things. Even when it made us uncomfortable. Especially then.

    She’s 20 now. Most cheerful kid I’ve ever met. No idea how that happened directly, but I know I can trust her.